Sometimes you have to GO through things to GET through things!
These are the moments that shape us. They don’t have to define us but they do shape us into who we will become. It doesn’t always make sense why we go through things or even get dealt a shitty hand. Later on in life, it might just make sense as we see how all those scenarios lined up.
It so important to remember that these are the moments that demand of our character or build it. Finding ways to handle difficult situations or people develop our coping mechanisms, teach us about boundaries and show us what we really want in life. I’m 100% speaking from a place in which I’ve been there!
I remember days wondering if tomorrow could be better or next week could be better. And to be honest, I was really tired of people telling me “You’re strong. I know you can handle this.” Sometimes being “strong” sucks and we need a soft place to fall, to rest and recharge. I started to create an intense emotional reaction to the word “strong”. I felt dismissed every time I was told I was strong. What if I’m not? What if I just don’t feel like I can do this today? What if there is no end?
I was never depressed and never experienced anxiety. I was taught that if you don’t want to be depressed, then go do something that makes you feel otherwise. If you don’t want to experience anxiety, then go do something that brings you peace. I was taught that I do have control over myself, my emotions and my reactions. So as hard as some days were, I found those two answers in pursuing health and fitness. I found it meditative and calm. My faith was so incremental in moving forward. Faith is the evidence of things hoped for but not yet seen. I had a lot I hoped and they eventually all came to be. I started to feel accomplished as I realized certain goals and made them a reality. My outlook started to change knowing that I could take on difficulties one day at a time. My sister reminded me to deal with today, for tomorrow never comes.
There were nights I felt like I had the world coming at me, pressures and responsibilities making demands greater than I could handle. And as time passed, I continued to make goals for myself and pursue achievements. I figured that if I didn’t want to be in the downward spiral and shitty emotional place, it was up to me to take myself out of it.
So I did! The rewards were phenomenal. Now when I look back, I can see that my hardships and my trials have shaped me to be who I am today. I feel far more equipped in life, I feel accomplished and I have a deeper understanding of people. I’ve been there!
For all the people I meet, I do hope that I have the opportunity to hear your story. I also wish to pour out my empathy and let you know that you’re never walking this world alone. Never! And being “strong” sucks, truly. You’ll also be surprised by how much strength and character you really have! It’s impeccable when you realize what you’re really made of.
Never let this world take you down. Whatever hardships you might be going through, they’re temporary. One day at a time my friends. Because this world has so much to offer you. I promise!
Hair and Makeup Artist: Stef Carlson